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What I have learned since becoming a working mom.

Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Being a working mom has it perks, but it is also can stink.

I used to be a stay at home mom and I remember thinking how much I can't wait to work. Now that I am working I have learned that being a SAHM and a working mom are both hard and exhausting in their own ways.

Here are some things I have learned since I started working.

1. You will be tired all the time.
Because you work doesn't mean your household and motherly duties will stop. I am more exhausted as a working mom than I ever was as a stay at home mom. You still have to tidy the house, bathe the kids, help with schoolwork, do laundry and care for any animals you might have. You will not be getting a lot of sleep. When the kids are tucked in you will stay up a little later so you will have a little peace to yourself. On your days off when you would have the time to play catch up on everything you need to do, you are going to want to relax and do nothing. That is perfectly okay. You need time for yourself too. I know I have a hard time realizing that. Stay in your jammies and watch your favorite show or read a book.

2. You enjoy the peace away from your home life while at work.
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At work I have no one demanding me for a snack a million times or yelling for me down the hall to wipe their butt, which is great.

3. When you have a sick kid you feel guilty about having to call in.
Which your work should not make you feel this way to begin with, but it does happen. You will have to switch between you and your partner who will stay home or if you are doing this on your own then you have to bite the bullet and make the call. Or the daycare or school calls to tell you that your little one has a fever and is throwing up and you have to scramble to see if anyone can get them before you ask your boss if you can leave to pick them up.

4. You miss things.
You will miss their Christmas party, recitals, football games...the list is endless. You will miss a bunch of the activities going on in their life. You are not going to be able to make it to all of them. You may come home and they are already tucked in bed and you you try not to cry because you missed singings goodnight songs and reading a bedtime story.

5. You will feel your always struggling to balance work and motherhood. 
You can't give 100% to each and because bills will have to be paid, majority of the time work will get most of your attention. There is no such thing as balance.

6. The time you have with your kids will be cherished greatly.
When you do have time to spend with them you won't take it for granted like you used to when you  were a SAHM (if you ever were one.) You will enjoy the moments you do get to share with them.

7. You will have bad days.
I have days where I am crying into Steven's arms about how I feel like a bad mom or how much I hate my job at that moment in time. You will have days where nothing can seem to go right and you are hanging by a string to make everything work. You will feel like you are not good enough. This moment will pass. Forgive yourself.


Whether working or staying at home it is all very hard and not one is better than the other. I think it all depends on the mom. Some women may handle working over being a SAHM better or vice versa.

Whichever side of the story you are on, you got this mama!


XOXO
Marissa.








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Facts every parent should know about raising a Redhead.

Friday, January 17, 2020

A few things to know when your child is redheaded.

So, you have yourself a ginger baby! Congrats. (Or maybe you don't and you are simply curious.) These babes are quite unique and as such they have some unique qualities and quirks about them. 


Your baby is a mutant. 
That’s right, a mutant. No need to call Professor X though. Red hair is a genetic mutation. Both parents must carry the ginger gene and only about 4% of the world carries it. Of that 4%; less than 2% actually have red hair. It can also occur in any ethnicity. If both parents are non-redheads, but carry the gene the chances of having a redheaded child is 25%.The gene can also skip generations before appearing again (which is why its called a recessive gene.)

Your kid will be the star of the show!
Seriously. The red hair attracts people like flies to honey. Whenever you are out in public people zone in to compliment your child's lovely hair. Sometimes they will even want to TOUCH it. It is frustrating. (If you’re a non ginger reading this, please don’t touch our kids’ head. As cute as they are, it’s uncool.) I don’t know the full origin, but there is a belief that if you rub the head of a ginger it will bring you good luck. I can guarantee that every outing at least one person will come by to say hello and admire your kid. Everyone loves a Ginger baby.

Everyone knows a redhead.
While you are out in public some of these strangers will share stories of a red head they know if they aren’t one their self. People like connections and and I have noticed that typically it is the elderly that will share their story. Listen and laugh as they use this moment to share a little bit of their history with you. I know they enjoy it and therefore take a moment out of your day to listen before you both move on.

“Where did she get that hair from?”
This is one I hear so very often. If you are like me, you and your partner are not natural redheads, you will get asked this a million times over and it will get old…FAST! I like to mix up my answer sometimes with “We got to choose.” or “She’s the mailman’s baby.” I don't know folks, like I mentioned above this gene can skip many generations before resurfacing.  

They make their own Vitamin D.
Their body makes vitamin D internally when exposed to low light because they can’t sufficiently absorb vitamin D.


Lefties make for besties!
Ginger babes tend to be more left-hand dominant. Similar to the redhead gene, being left handed is a recessive gene; about 12% of the population is left handed. Recessive genes often come in pairs which is why it is common for redheads to be lefties.

Sunblock is your new BFF!
Redheads typically have very pale, delicate skin. They will turn into a lobster if not properly protected. Even on cloudy or cold winter days the sun can still burn their skin. It is best to keep them covered and use sunblock any time they will be going outside. Never rely on one or the other. It is best to use layers of clothing, hats (if they will wear it) and sunscreen.


Gingers tend to have very sensitive skin.
Redheads bruise easily compared to others, so when you see that random purple or blue spot appear do not fret too much as they may not even be aware they even got it. They will also break out in rash and possibly have eczema. They can have more allergic reactions to just about anything: animals, fragrance, the outside world! Nothing is worse than having an active, outdoor loving redhead and they can’t enjoy the outside as much because of the number of layers you put on them on top of the watery eyes and sneezing.


They do look great in olive, navy and purple, but they WILL look beautiful in anything.
These are not doubt their colors, but Cheryl Blossom has showed us that a ginger can really rock red!

Red heads can be much sassier.
Maybe it’s just mine, but she is a fiery, independent spirit. Her temper goes from 0 to 100 quick. It would not surprise me if the term "hot headed" started because of a ginger.



There are more facts on redheads we could go into, but these are the few I believe most redheaded parents should know (if they haven’t already discovered…which they will.) 




Thank you for reading.
XOXO
Marissa
"Ivy's mom"

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