What I have learned since becoming a working mom.

Tuesday, January 21, 2020
Being a working mom has it perks, but it is also can stink.

I used to be a stay at home mom and I remember thinking how much I can't wait to work. Now that I am working I have learned that being a SAHM and a working mom are both hard and exhausting in their own ways.

Here are some things I have learned since I started working.

1. You will be tired all the time.
Because you work doesn't mean your household and motherly duties will stop. I am more exhausted as a working mom than I ever was as a stay at home mom. You still have to tidy the house, bathe the kids, help with schoolwork, do laundry and care for any animals you might have. You will not be getting a lot of sleep. When the kids are tucked in you will stay up a little later so you will have a little peace to yourself. On your days off when you would have the time to play catch up on everything you need to do, you are going to want to relax and do nothing. That is perfectly okay. You need time for yourself too. I know I have a hard time realizing that. Stay in your jammies and watch your favorite show or read a book.

2. You enjoy the peace away from your home life while at work.
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At work I have no one demanding me for a snack a million times or yelling for me down the hall to wipe their butt, which is great.

3. When you have a sick kid you feel guilty about having to call in.
Which your work should not make you feel this way to begin with, but it does happen. You will have to switch between you and your partner who will stay home or if you are doing this on your own then you have to bite the bullet and make the call. Or the daycare or school calls to tell you that your little one has a fever and is throwing up and you have to scramble to see if anyone can get them before you ask your boss if you can leave to pick them up.

4. You miss things.
You will miss their Christmas party, recitals, football games...the list is endless. You will miss a bunch of the activities going on in their life. You are not going to be able to make it to all of them. You may come home and they are already tucked in bed and you you try not to cry because you missed singings goodnight songs and reading a bedtime story.

5. You will feel your always struggling to balance work and motherhood. 
You can't give 100% to each and because bills will have to be paid, majority of the time work will get most of your attention. There is no such thing as balance.

6. The time you have with your kids will be cherished greatly.
When you do have time to spend with them you won't take it for granted like you used to when you  were a SAHM (if you ever were one.) You will enjoy the moments you do get to share with them.

7. You will have bad days.
I have days where I am crying into Steven's arms about how I feel like a bad mom or how much I hate my job at that moment in time. You will have days where nothing can seem to go right and you are hanging by a string to make everything work. You will feel like you are not good enough. This moment will pass. Forgive yourself.


Whether working or staying at home it is all very hard and not one is better than the other. I think it all depends on the mom. Some women may handle working over being a SAHM better or vice versa.

Whichever side of the story you are on, you got this mama!


XOXO
Marissa.








6 comments

  1. It is tough hey! I home school and work from home and still feel all of these sometimes. The juggle is real mama!

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  2. It can be hard to find a balance between being a mom and working too. I feel like I am always racing around and trying to get everything done.

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  3. Thanks for sharing your experience. It's definitely tough to work full time and be a parent. I'm working from home for now on very part time basis and absolutely love not having to be involved in childcare all the time. But I know that full time would definitely be much tougher and it's harder to get things done. A supportive partner who shares the load at home is a must for peace and balance.

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  4. #4 used to get to me all of the time but I realize that work regardless of if it is at the same place or not, will be there. My kid, especially when sick needs me.

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  5. I agree with all of these aside from #3 mainly because I usually have paid time off built up and I don't 100% like my job so I have no problem calling out of work to stay home with my kids.

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  6. I totally agree with you. I also had my share of experience being a SAHM and a working mom. Just like what you said, it is not easy but we just need to live with it.

    Though, after sometime I guess I was able to find the sweet spot between the two since I am so happy to be a WAHM. :)

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